A person is a person is a person.

3 Sep

AS OPPOSED TO: AN OBJECT/ITEM.

In case you haven’t noticed, I am one fucking hell of a feminist. Not exactly the bra-burning kind, though. If you’re a chauvinistic pig who can’t deal with girls who speak up for themselves, stop reading. And you can shut your misplaced asshole, too. I will delete comments. This is a disclaimer. 

I find it incredibly offensive when people talk about “getting girls”. You don’t “get” girls. You “get” things. Objects. Girls are people. Similarly, I don’t like it when people talk about “getting” guys, but it’s quite obvious that the demeaning phrase is the most commonly used by men. How can a person be something to “get”? Are they sitting on a shelf? Are they an item in a game that you pick up on your way? No. And they’re not supposed to be, either. You can’t make plans to go and “get some girls”, because girls don’t sit there waiting for you to pick them up. You can “get some drinks”–drinks are inanimate objects that exist solely for the purpose being picked up and drunk. Girls are people. People have their own values and opinions and pride, and they deserve to be respected–meaning that they ought to be treated like one. 

As an extension to that, what the fuck is “We get the most girls”? People who say this often mean that they are better, more popular, more respected, more well-known… Okay. So. WHAT THE FUCK ARE GIRLS? COLLECTORS’ ITEMS? TROPHIES? DO YOU FUCKING COLLECT THEM FOR A HOBBY? IF NOT, THEN WHAT THE FUCK IS “WE GET THE MOST GIRLS”? GIRLS, WHO ARE HUMAN BEINGS AND THEREFORE INDIVIDUALS, DO NOT SIT AROUND WAITING TO BE “GOTTEN” OR “PICKED UP”. THEY DO NOT WAIT PATIENTLY FOR SOME DOUCHEBAG TO COLLECT THEM. Is this supposed to be an indicator of social status? The only thing that it indicates is that the utterer is a mega-chauvinistic douchebag.

It also is reminiscent of polygamy. Obviously, it’s nothing to do with marriage at this point, but “getting lots of girls”? “Getting” suggests that you own the object. If you “get” lots of girls, you in fact are implying that you “own” lots of girls–most probably meaning that you are involved with them in some way or the other. So what now? A toned-down, hormone-filled version of polygamy? Morals aside, it also renders the person a man-whore (or whore, if this is the case with a girl). 

This is probably the ugliest and most offensive thing that I’ve heard in a long time. I want to punch the phrase clean out of those who use it. And for those who think that feminists are ‘bitches’, I think that you and I both know the real reason why.

It’s because you dislike having your “male authority” questioned and challenged. Deal with it.

P.S. I saw an ad on television advertising a certain skin product today. It went like this: the lady doesn’t use the skin product, and tries to get in an elevator with this guy inside. The elevator door closes despite her best efforts. And then: the lady goes back and USES the skin product. This time, with slight changes to outfit, she heads for the elevator again–and the same guy is inside! When the door begins to close, he reaches out and stops it, letting her in and even smiling creepily at her. This is the kind of bullshit that we’re being spoon-fed all day. That women are good only for their looks and that to please men with beauty should be their ultimate goal. WHAT UTTER CRAP.

Oh god. I can go on and on and on. So much about this fucked-up society is pissing me off right now. This is probably one of the reasons why I stay well away from television. And yes, I admit that this is a rant, and a very rant-y one at that, but this really drives me to the edge and I can’t keep the shit from flying off the handle any more.

My only hope is that it has been, at the very least, somewhat coherent.

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6 Responses to “A person is a person is a person.”

  1. Kitten September 3, 2011 at 2:37 am #

    I too absolutely hate when I hear people talk about “getting” girls or guys. And I especially hate those commercials like the one you described!

    Girls are not objects to be judged and valued only for looks/beauty. We’re human beings with thoughts, feelings, opinions and much more. Treat us like it!!

    • AwesomeAim September 3, 2011 at 5:24 pm #

      Exactly! Glad you agree. And the more who speak up, the better.

  2. Violet Johnson September 3, 2011 at 10:11 pm #

    You forgotten the commercials about how if men use their perfume or anything like that, he attracts girls……I think they’re quite offensive to every female — girls do not get attracted to males because of how they look OR how they smell. We judge who we like and who we want to be with by their personality and their beliefs ETC ETC ETC……

    • AwesomeAim September 3, 2011 at 11:10 pm #

      Exactly! And if we can do this, so can they. I’m sure that there are men who dislike being portrayed in this way too.

  3. thalassalynanne September 5, 2011 at 6:29 pm #

    You go girl! Haha… Joyce told me about this post today and was all ‘it’s really really good’ and it is! Exactly what I think sometimes but have never had a chance to put it in words. awesome…

    • AwesomeAim September 5, 2011 at 8:21 pm #

      Whoa! Thank you; I’m flattered! 😀 And this has been nagging at me for some time now, just waiting… I decided to write this after hearing one too many (any one time is one too many) “we get the most girls”-s.

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